India is the land of achievements and accomplishments. Various
phases from Primitive, Middle and Modern eras have been witnessed by our
motherland. It has an international and multilingual society with wide
variations in demographic situations and socio- economic conditions. In a nation
that is dutifully and ethically diverse, commonly described as, “JUMBLE OF
POSSIBILITIES, the people follow a wide variety of customs, and have varied
beliefs that ultimately mould lifestyle and sexuality. The fertile soil of
India comprises of various types of pre- historic mountain and cave paintings
in Ajanta and Ellora(Maharashtra) and Khajuraho(Madhya
Pradesh) temple- their sculptures describes that there is a difference in
sexual practice in India. The architecture of Khajuraho depicts graphic sexual
positions and leaves nothing to the imagination.
KAMASUTRA, one of
the ancient Hindu literatures played a significant role in the history of sex
during 1st and 6th century. It is considered to be the standard works on human
sexual behavior. Vatsyayana, the
author of Kamasutra (Aphorism of love) is a classic work that includes three
pillars of Hindu religion, “Dharma, Artrha and Karma “respectively. The author
suggested different ways to stimulate desire and performance of sexual
happiness. He was innovative enough to come up with seven different ways of kissing,
eight varities of touch, four methods of stroking the body and eight sounds
that may be emitted during sex and foreplay in his book. The main theme appears
to be expression of Indian attitude towards sex as central and natural
component of Indian Psyche and life.
The fast-food generation, in twenty-first century is
forgetting the art of love- lust in modern times. Teenagers are indulging in
sexual activity at immature ages, say sex therapists and counselors.” Sexologist, Dr Rajan Bhonsle, youngsters had
first sexual experience, when they were as young as 11”.
During 1990’s, they wooed girls with Archie’s cards and balloons
and lovebirds would enjoy the quality time together on Valentine’s Day listening
to BACKSTREET BOY’S or watch movie together in theatres.
In this rat race of rapid growth of globalization, “Pumpkin norms and industrial desires are heading for success “. Indeed, It is the time of instant hook –ups; instant breakups, the time of tough love where a date means thrilling partying & commitment turns “Oh! Was that you pkka? No one is bothered if your friends are sleeping together, it’s all about discovering other sex first before thinking of commitments. Now a day’s, dating is done through casual sex, hook up mobile apps, friends with benefits(pros),open relationships, one night stands, social media sites, long distance relationships, sex-oral talks, party matchups, Pre- marital sex constitute many more kinds of sexual activity. In the Indian film industry, movies like Masaan and Hunterrr show that even the small towns of India origin are leading to change from sentimentality to sensuality.
The adult version of dark room can be seen at wild parties or “PAGE THREE” as shown by
Madhur Bhandarkar’s 2005 released movie, social gathering are superficial,
shallow and engaging in pedophilia where alcohol is served and bars or pubs
happen to have big celebrities or couples. Indian states that have high
possibility of seduction exist in town like Jaipur, Chandigarh, Chennai,
Kolkata, Hyderabad, Pune, Bangalore, Delhi, Mumbai, and Goa. These spaces are
illicit and exist in a grey zone.
Urban culture has
turned to upscale night clubs now. In the movie, Fashion (2008) “,suggested that those who are part of the
glamour world of 'wild' parties are only inches above depraved and will
eventually find themselves in bed with black men”.
Whether men or women in the pleasure of having casual sex,
Bedroom tricks remain sociological since time immemorial times. It has turned
up to individual thrill quest. Sexual fantasies bring in the ecstasy,
illicitness, newness and curiosity of sex within the non-committed relationship-
a sex for sex sake. In the heterosexual casual sex, pleasure is turning out be
‘liberated modern’ subject. A focus where couples with
sunshine glow click selfiees at bedhead and buy lingerie’s and underwear’s via
mobile apps e- retailers. You, yes! You crooked duos think sex is important to
any of the relationships. Pleasure is in the hunt for is the national pastime,
such as Sunny Leone is the poster girl.
You know who you are, isn’t it?
In a 2016 survey done by India Today / MDRA, 75% of the respondents said that sex is
very important in a relationship and 86% of people surveyed were satisfied with
their sex life. This survey included 4042 respondents across 17 cities between
20 to 69 years of age.
In a recent survey done by India today and outlook magazine,
the Indie -loving Indian circuit dwells in the list of most downloading
uncensored sites like Ashley.com to fulfill their heart sensations. Being a
typical Indian middle class mentality, we make faces at adult movies but watch porn
stars and it is so shocking for me to announce that, “India is the 6th country
that has sign-ins at infidelity sites and social sites like matrimonial and
dating pages, like face book and LinkedIn, Google plus are following these
behind and turning havocs. The future compatibility horoscopes are made through
media sites and relationships are progressing through online chatting. The
hypocritical society believe in love, lust and longing now
The couples with post – coital glows talk about sex or see “Shakira” videos that
shows her naked covered with sheets, we scream
chee-chee”but are ready to watch condoms add see condom adds when it
comes to experience sex.They buy
lingerie via aaps like Masalatoys.com to
enhance their sexual assets.
No doubts, India is seriously moving and shaking under the
sheets where desires clash in night and day and sex is with you, yeah you in
your overstretched office hours and also at long commute with couples.
The sociology of sex is turning out to be pre- marital sex
before taking the plunge. The kinship bond has lost its shine with live-in
relationships acquiring the aura of how modern lovers should live life.
"Who is afraid
of the virginity wolf?” It is the most cherished jewel of Indian culture. The women
are characterized according to her virginity. Those who use first sexual
experience as merely a forerunner to the joys of experience say sex is
underwater for the couples now; men don’t bother if you are a virgin, and it’s
that you are foreplay for the patriarchy.
The couples of Digital India have discovered lovemaking
through whatsapp, Hike and Snap- chats, DM- ed. These apps offer privacy and
plenitude; making conversations and communications as easy as the morning cup.
Oral sex may be "against the order of nature." As per Section 377, men
and women in India's hyperactive cities can't stop going down on each other.
And rely on courtship gamming.
Because of hypocrisy and hyperventilation. It's nothing new
now that modern people watch pornography and carry out extramarital affairs in
their busy schedules. In this, and in a few more instances of being two-faced
India, Delhi tops many a list (read the survey for the stats), which is
unfortunate. Though, hardly unexpected.
Moderate stoned urban dwelling Indians will change the face
of the world again in the upcoming decade .With the help of Kamasutra and
erotic love, the lives of people are depending on contraceptive pills like
SILDENAFIL and such other drugs. We
followed blindly the west cultures without understanding its norms, attitude
and behavior. It has indeed become a necessity for every age group to be taught
about the half baked information for the subject like sex. The attitude towards
sex has become more open and mature in the changing times in love lust and
longing figure especially. Thus, the mark of true urban cultural evolution
admits that staying within the limits; you are tearing the rule book with your
own hands.
