One of the most important question that
encounters today’s generation on their life is that, “Many people know where
they want to be, but they don’t know why they can’t do this." Each one of us, you
and me are not only individual entities, but also have individual life jobs to live. We are so much addicted to
our daily duties that we forget about ourselves in the hectic
schedules of our daily routine. Taking
the work load either in the collage, homes or offices, we invite troubles for
ourselves which later converts us into the hush – posh.
Thus, when the response approaches it is
that:-
1)
Sinking feeling: whether one pass or fail.
2)
Redundant: relating to a person who is no longer needed .
3)
Abuse, embarrassment:- why do
wrong things happen to one.
Therefore,
we develop a little confidence in ourselves & also dissatisfaction with
life and carrier. Each one of us is the small atom in the vast arena of
molecules. We don’t realize that trouble is a part of our life. It will come
and go. If you don’t share it, you don’t give a person who loves you a chance, to love you enough. All of us find
happiness in the company of a person whom you trust the most where we share the
feelings & sorrows of one another. You may realize the person becomes your
life coach.
A therapist or a counselor may look into how your past is affecting you but coming to the point “
life coach” is a professional who helps you to achieve the ambitions in your
work and personal life.
A COACH IS AN:
a) Adviser to whom you can open up yourself
b) Peruses on a strategy for a
change and building on your strength.
c)
It is not only well established all over the world but has also
become beneficial in every life.
What if we recognize what’s lacking in us.....?
· INTERROGATE YOURSELF:- try to ask yourself some few basic questions when you are not in your sense.....situation
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Is this important.
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Is it appropriate.
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Is the situation modifiable
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Is it worth taking action
Then you
are in control.
If you
think or act before any action, you will realize what is beneficial and what is
detrimental?
Decide
the result that you want, make a plan and follow it.
Change yourself,
react on it & move.
We can benefit
from the techniques that the life coach utilizes that are as follows
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Write a life history.
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Learn to like yourself.
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Take responsibility.
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Free up space.
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Acquire more energy.
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Live in the movement.
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Look at the life holistically.
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Bring more fun in life.
·
Get a right attitude.
A) WRITE A LIFE HISTORY: The first and foremost thing
that you need to understand is to begin by jotting things down;
the story of your
life so far:-story of your past, present
Strength
& weakness
Threats
& opportunities.
This may help out you to learn the
important lesson & disappointments. It’s a way of realizing that what you have
achieved and what you really want in life.
example: Be your true self.
B) LEARN
TO LIKE YOURSELF: To keep yourself
in the limelight, be your own best friend to boost your self confidence.
Sometimes people say most insulting things about themselves without realizing
how undermining it is. Think of someone you know whom you respect.
Now at look yourself into the mirror & have the same relationship with the
person you see; do you talk to yourself as you would to a treasured friend?
Do you say how
well you are doing? Do you enjoy your own company?
C) Take
responsibility: It can be tempting to blame people or circumstances for
what happens to you, but this is dis empowering,”
what we think, say or act will have dramatic impact on our lives” you can
choose, how you react to your duties.
When you accept
that you can create your own world, then life really can open up.
example-There was a family who had three members. The father and the two sons.
Father was alcoholic &
useless. His elder son who did not apply for studies never realized his
aptitude, interests etc. He could not control things that would yield him favorable results. He let the things control him. The results was that he
dissipated his time, energy & emerged as a miserable failure.
Whereas the youngest one analyzed
the situation to the best of its ability. He used the time available for his
regular studies to benefit himself &finally emerged as a winner. He controlled things & circumstances. The
younger brother made himself to do the opposite of two.
{Two sides of the same
coin}
D) Free up
space: Respond to the demands in your life by creating space & thinking
time for yourself. Time to reflect is essential for a quality of life. You
must believe that you have a right to.
Start up by
finding out a place in your home where you can relax, listen to the music or
read. Tell people around you that that you would like to be left alone for 10
minutes or more than an hour.
Build up this time
until you can take weekends or even week away by yourself if you wish.
E) Acquire more
energy: Drink fluids at least 2 liters a day. Ensure your diet is healthy.
Work on the physical fitness which may keep you hale & hearty. Make sure
you are getting enough sleep.. work out what gives you energy. Learn to relax
or control stress, through yoga or meditation. Clutter in the house can be a
common culprit. Have a routine to clear your desks paper & throw out
the old clothes & books or other possessions you no longer need.
Your confidence
will boost & thus you can have focus on what you really have.
F) LIVE IN THE
MOMENT: If you want to be more efficient. Practice focus 100% whatever you
are doing. Nothing snaps energy for doing better,example: turn up your senses such
as ice- {smell it up, taste it), candle {sight it, touch, feel}
example: Focus on for few minutes on pictures or an object, such as
flower. Concentrate all your senses on a
tactile & visual qualities. Gradually build this up to work situations by
deciding that for next say, 40 min you will focus entirely on your current
project, without checking any e-mail and answering only urgent calls.
Develop your
attention span by using the same technique in conversation. Turn yourself to
listen without interrupting with the aim of fully understanding and
connecting with other people.
G) LOOKS AT THE
LIFE HOLISTICALLY :
We are living in real
world so we can be spiritual all our life. If we think of our lives
holistically. We could be in a proper layout.
Steps to clean
your financial acts are:
1)
Get out of debts.
2)
Be honest about your spending pattern.
3)
Save the future even if you are
in debt. Put up 100% income into the long term saving.
4)
Understand what holds you back
financially.
We have developed bad habits to think that finances are less
important. Unless you don’t change your
thought you will find it very difficult to create future financial security. But thinking holistically cannot bring
finances under control. You have your family with you.
Think of this part of life and understand what holds you back
financially.
H) BRING MORE FUN INTO YOUR LIFE: A
lot of sufferings arrive from taking life too seriously on health. Laughter,
playfulness and relaxation are beneficial to the body as well as to the mind,
affecting rapidly on your age, your immune system and how your body responds
to stress hormones. Experience something exiting but in safe, formalized
atmosphere.
“LEARNING TO TANGO CAN AWAKE YOUR PASSION
IN LIFE.”
I)
GET THE RIGHT ATTITUDE: By
following the above steps you must have gained a lot of inner strength and
confidence. You require the right kind of attitude to face the actual test.
Just learn to think and act positively and be firm in your decisions. Understand that the life is short and the person who win is the one who thinks
he\ she can.
SUCCESS
MANTRA;
Once
you step into your preferred carers zones, do remember insert hard work, acquiring the art of adaptability. Be
innovative and have good values.
“FIND
YOUR DIRECTIONS LIKE THE ANTS DO PLAN NEVER TO
GIVE UP LIKE THE SPIDER BE FOCUSED
LIKE A TORTOISE TILL YOU REACH YOUR DESTINATION”
MY
OWN EXPERIENCE:
These are the words, the words that have
a lot of meaning in it & the words which could differentiate b/w failure,
success & happiness.
So, the time to start yourself is right
now. & see from the darkness to light.
How
you find the change in yourself............thus, emerge as a winner.
I conclude by quoting Lou Helmholtz's
It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.”
